Let’s Reveal Your Divine Timing
The truth and power of hesitation while creating from your sacred timing
Dear Creator Spirit,
There is an expression, “He who hesitates is lost.” This phrase, as old as it is, has been misquoted. I like to know where these sayings come from, so I had to look it up! Here is the original quote from Joseph Addison's play Cato (1712):
“The woman that deliberates is lost.”
The original line has been taken out of context and twisted to be used as a way to encourage pushing, decisiveness, and urgency. In the version of this quote we have come to know, deliberation is shown to us as something that limits progress while discouraging our ability to pause, reflect, and find our rhythm.
The original quote in context to the character is this:
“When love once pleads admission to our hearts
(In spite of all the virtue we can boast)
The woman that deliberates is lost.”
The play is set during the last days of the Roman Empire. The main character was speaking in a time where women were not able to choose whom they would marry. To sit in deliberation and be able to choose would cost a woman in that era everything, as having a choice—including matters of love and marriage—was forbidden.
We don’t live in those times anymore, and the time of pushing toward success is leaving us too. In order to help show it the door, we get to examine our beliefs and release them. They served the versions of us from the past. We are creating something new here, and we get to shift how we do that. We can’t live and experience creative freedom if we are bound and restricted.
Our language is one of the keys to discovering what we think and, in turn, how we act.
Hesitation in a crosswalk when a car is barreling toward you is bad. Hesitation when writing, painting, treating a client or patient, building a sacred and aligned business or any other creative act is a sacred pause. It is the exact place we get to slow down to connect with our soul.
Deliberation, pondering, dreaming, reflecting—are words in service to our sense of divine timing and creativity. It brings strategy and agency into play. When we rush, we run the risk of creating from our unconscious patterns. When we deliberate, we become deliberate in our creations.
What if the places you are judging yourself as hesitating is really your sense of divine timing—your soul whispering to you, “Hold this close and nurture it until it is ready.”
Whenever we feel the nudge to expand or create something new—something that feels different, edgy, or vulnerable—we often meet parts of ourselves that carry fear, doubt, or resistance.
We hesitate.
We stall.
We deliberate!
Then comes the judgment. Reinforcing old patterns of lack and self-criticism… and just like that, we retreat.
Back into hiding.
Back into the safety of the familiar.
Back to the darkness and pain from holding back—it is such a vicious cycle!
Can we practice some self-compassion?
I too have fears and doubts that pass through me—I do! As I do my creative, healing, and ceremonial work, evolution naturally occurs. As I unfold, I get to release the layers of beliefs that wish I would retreat and hide.
When I am in an expansion: whatever I think is probably not coming from my soul—it is coming from the past. My brain thinks, while my soul knows. I don’t ignore my brain and its thoughts; I take them in, feel them with my body, and let them take me deeper. You see, I want to understand, not just shut them up and walk around them pretending they aren’t there. I want to face them because there is a message for me. Something I need to know that helps me evolve.
The road to expand is non-linear and has so many back and forths—more like a cha-cha than a waltz.
When backward is forward
Sometimes we have to go back to go forward. Or if you like the spiral metaphor, we come around the bend at the same point only with a higher perspective. Whether it feels like a circle or like you are moving backward, it is a retrograde. What do you want to collect here, now that you have arrived again, with more wisdom than before?
I have been sitting with hesitation in the space between the full moon and this last quarter. I let the feeling of hesitation take me deeper. Hesitation, especially when considered that all is lost, has that fear of death attached to it.
I slowed myself down to connect with my body; I just felt and received what my system has been holding. Not quite a fear of death, like that car barreling toward me, but more like judgment from the outer world–a fear that I would get it wrong and be killed. And deep inside, there is this part that wants to keep running and keep hiding. This is my precious nervous system signaling to me that I must hide to keep safe.
But what if my system isn’t operating in the now? What if it is operating from a truth that is ancient and is not true right now?
We’ve all been carrying the ancient wounds of our ancestors—healers, wise women, and medicine keepers—women who lived in reverence and knew how to commune with the nature spirits, our Pachamama, and the unseen realms. They held the wisdom of a living, breathing, interconnected universe—one we are still a part of. A dancing, dreaming cosmic family.
And yet, because of the long history of silencing and killing that which goes against the establishment, we’ve also inherited something else: encoded programs of safety. These patterns—born of trauma, persecution, and survival—still live in our systems. While they can protect us from real, immediate threat, they often get triggered by echoes of the past. And when they do, they hold us back.
We need to bring ourselves into the now—gently, lovingly—as we expand and remember the truth of who we are. This is how we begin to create the world we long to live in.
We are not evil witches possessed by forces meaning to do harm.
We are bringers of the light, carriers of ancient wisdom, and lovers of all life.
It is time to cultivate the relationships with the unseen, as we exist there too. And, it will challenge the establishment, but dear creator spirit, you are not alone. You are ready, you have community and it is time.
So as we are now at the last quarter moon, beginning to wind our way into the darkness of the new—what will you release?
Let’s move into a deeper, compassionate relationship with our inner wisdom and find a new trust for our sacred rhythm.
With Love and Cosmic Dreaming,
Deborah
P.S.
If you find yourself pausing... hesitating... circling something that feels tender or true—know this:
You’re not stuck.
You’re listening.
Let’s take it deeper– where healing begins.
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“Dear Deborah,
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— M. Downes, CA
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Impatience. Too often my mind leaps to automatic conclusions based on past experience. I make better decisions when a take a beat and listen to my heart.